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He had breakfast and then told Mom he felt tired and wanted to sleep some more.

Mom went to check on him hours later near lunch time and my sisters and I heard her screaming.

We don't know the cause. He hasn't been ill.

Your Dad?

This is terrible to read of.

Very sorry to read this.

Your initial post isn’t very clear. Didn’t sound good at all.

So what is happening now ?

NFB, are you ok?

NoFlyBoy, how are you doing ?

Most of us here are old enough to have gone through this already. We are here for you.

259 views. 7 responses. What has happened to this site? Sad.

What

You'll always have lurkers-only (assuming they get counted in the views), and maybe people like me who try to focus on one part of the board when they have an active thread going for time constraints, so not always paying attention to what's happening in places like CH or PWEC.

But in this case, I feel for NFB and it doesn't sound good. But what to say, until we get more info?

Praying for you all.

I am also thinking of a member who had their 102 yr old Mother die recently. The lack of response from serial posters was telling.

I’m convinced most of the views originate from caring members who are compassionate and support NFB with their prayers and thoughts but perhaps like myself feel unable to offer adequate words in a situation which is really a bit unclear although concerning at the moment.

Awaiting news I most emphatically offer my best wishes, thoughts and prayers to NoFlyBoy and family, in what might be one of those moments in life we all dread but are forced to experience.

Yes. Our Dad has died. Only 70 years young. Thank you for your caring words.

My deepest condolences. There are no words to make it easier. The loss of a father is a terrible thing for a son to endure.

Live your life in a manner that he would be proud of.

Sorry to hear that, your family is in my prayers.

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your father NFB. Stay strong for your mother, she will surely need your support over the coming weeks.

Condolences, NFB. Try to be strong for the rest of your family.

Sorry, NFB. All you can do is to be strong for your family [^ EDIT: ninja'd...same thoughts at same time. Was thinking of mother and sisters].

Sorry to hear this NFB. My condolences to you and your family.

Sorry to hear this NFB, keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Very sad NoFlyBoy. Prayers to you and your family, in this difficult time.

Very sorry to hear this, NFB. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

You & your family have my condolences, my own father passed when he was 69 & I was 29.
It's OK to grieve & in fact, it is probably better if you do.
As others have said be prepared to support the rest of your family & especially your mother.

Everyone know this is coming, it never makes it any easier.
my deepest condolences. did your partents live alone ? cos now its a time you need to keep a close eye on your mom.

Hard times NFB, look out for your mum and if you need someone to talk to pm me if you need help to get through this.

Condolences NFB.

My sincerest condolences NFB. At seventy, your dad should have had many more years. Take care.

I'm sorry for your loss. Stay safe.

Very sorry to hear this NFB. OG said it well. My dad died at 65 and my wife's father in his fifties. There are no easy words and there is no easy path. Stay strong for your family and for yourself.

That was really sad news NFB.
My deepest condolences.

I've lost family members... Mother, father and a sister, so I know how painful this must be... but be assured, you will get through it given time. Look after yourself.

I still have both my parents, they are 84 and 85 and are no longer married to each other. Mom lives in Kentucky with my Sister and her Husband and Dad lives south of me in Sarasota. I know one day I'll get that call and I'm not ready for it. We aren't promised tomorrow, make the most of your time on earth. NFB you have my sincerest condolences.

My condolences NFB. It will be hard for awhile, not that it will be ever easy. After the passing of my Mom last Sept. I am #3 in line of succession on her side of the family and am #1 on Dad's side of the family.

Sorry to hear that NFB.

So sorry, NFB.

My father died in 2008. He suddenly collapsed one night while we were at our summer cabin, and I spent half an hour doing CPR while waiting for the helicopter to arrive. Nothing to be done, unfortunately.

I miss him every day. You learn to live with it. It’s hard to see right now, but you do.

I lost my Dad also in 2008, when he was 64. He was supposed to come back to town from the beach with my Mom the next day, and after that visit his heart doctor for a checkup that he knew and dreaded would reveal he had to have heart surgery, again. Alas, that night he kissed my mom and tucked her into bed, turning her light off, and went back to his study to read or watch TV for a while. The next morning she found him, as if he were asleep in his recliner. That was the worst day I can remember.

The afternoon before, though, the last time we spoke, I shared with him a joke, and I remember his infectious laughter. I am thankful to God for that moment.

So sorry for your loss, NFB. Remain strong and vigilant. From all you have said of him on these forums, I can tell you admired him greatly, and he the same of you. Remember those good times, for they will help you face the steep road ahead of you, as you learn to wear his shoes.

Just seeing this...very sorry to hear NFB. My Dad passed at 52 years old in 1996. I'd like to think that we will all be reunited at some point on the other side...whatever that might be or look like.

You're at the toughest stage of loss right now...it will get better. (it's hard to see that now I know)

My Dad died in 1995, at the age of 48. Cancer. I think of him daily. Remember all the good things NoFlyBoy. It really hit me hard that first Father's Day, it really caught me off guard. He died in Sept.
If you need someone to vent with, feel free to DM me. This is a community, and you have become a big part of it, and a positive influence.

I am sorry to hear of your loss NoFlyBoy. It is very hard to loose your Dad. I lost my Dad a couple of years ago, and I still think of all the great times we had and what I learned from him.
I know you will cherish you memories of your Dad.
Be well.

How are you holding up NFB ?

Just got the internet back after the winter storm here in Idaho. So sorry to read this NFB! How are you and the family holding up?

I'm sorry for your loss

How are you doing NoFlyBoy ?

Thank you for all your kind words. The funeral is this Saturday. Doctors examined Dad's body and will have a report soon on his passing.





One day at a time. I haven't slept and ate much last or go to school and work.

So this is life? We born, grow up, get jobs, get families, do the same thing every day: wake up to work, family, go to sleep, wake up, do it again, and one day we are done. Just a body with no life to be put under ground.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

It's kinda double-edged. On the one side we somehow hope for a peaceful sudden death, go to bed and just don't wake up the next day; no prolonged suffering, no pains, no weeks/months/years of caretaking troubles, hospitalization, ...

But as with your dad and your family now, that also amplifies the shock for the relatives when it happens, leaving them totally unprepared, no thanks, sharing memories, no farewell, ...

Thanks for the update, NFB. I'm not articulate about this kind of stuff, except to say that I'm sorry for you, man. You just have to try to make the most of life with whatever time and circumstances you have.

RIP to your father.

Sorry to hear you are struggling. I have not experienced a sudden death, so I can't really relate.
Your Dad's life had meaning. He had people who loved him.

The Dash Poem - By Linda Ellis

I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
From the beginning...to the end

He noted that first came the date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years

For that dash represents all the time
That they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
Know what that little line is worth

For it matters not, how much we own,
The cars...the house...the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile,
Remembering this special dash
Might only last a little while

So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life's actions to rehash...
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent YOUR dash?

The second line of my sig.

Great post F4UDash4.

Thank you F4UDash4. I will put take a picture on my phone.

While talking to a friend, I was just told a girl we went to school with that we haven't seen in 2 years because she moved away to another city, just passed last week after fighting cancer for 11 months. She was only 36.

Too many passings lately. I don't like it.

36 is way too young. Did she have kids ?

Two. 14 and 3.

Oh, that is very sad.

Tomorrow is Father's Day. I miss my Dad.

The first one with out my Dad hit me like a Mac truck. It totally caught me off guard. I did not think of it leading up to that day. 8 months of not crying needed release. I just did not know it.
You have my sympathy NFB.

My stepdad (78) went in for cardiac testing this past Tuesday (my mom’s 84th birthday) and they found he had a widow maker with 90% blockage. The next day he had a double bypass, got moved out of the ICU yesterday, I’ll be calling his room tomorrow because I came close to losing him. It’s very comforting knowing he had it done in one of the highest-rated cardiac centers in the nation (Maine Medical Center), how Maine ended up with that I don’t know but I’m glad we did.

I lost my Dad back in 2020. Yesterday, his picture popped up randomly on one of those "On This Day" reminder things and really knocked me back for a bit. I feel you NFB, I miss my Dad too.

My father has been gone since 2002. Today would have been his and my mothers (she's gone since 2014) 74th wedding anniversary. And my 61st birthday. A bit melancholy all away around.


The missing them never goes away but it does get easier to live with.

Best wishes for your stepdad NH2112.

Hoping for a day of happy memories for those who have lost their Fathers. F4UDash4 and JohnnyChemo.
It is hard to believe my Dad has been gone 28 years.

True. I still miss may parents. I have so many questions I had wished I`d aked my father about WW2. He didn`t say anything. I guess that is normal.

@ F4UDash4, Happy 61st . Hope you have a good one.

NFB, when you have your own children the day will get a little bit easier. His missing presence, however, will always be in the back of your mind. Hang in there. I miss mine as well.

This was my experience as well.

Thank you WangoTango, much appreciated.

No problem. Went to Dad's grave this afternoon. Only a half hour away, but not in an area I travel often.

We did that today too

This Sunday is one year of Dad leaving us. Incredible one year has gone by already.

Thank you Dad for looking down on us.

Mom and I and my sisters think of you every day and there isn't a week that we don't mention you or bring up a memory of you or something you've taught us.

My condolences. My father has been gone for almost 22 years. I still miss him but it doesn't hurt as much any more, most of the time. I am however now starting to have a little difficulty with the prospect of what would have been his 100th birthday fast approaching.

With deference and understanding towards NFB My Father is 86, my Mom and Dad have been Divorced many years and my Mom is widowed from her second Husband and my Dad is still with his second and both are of advanced age. Dad hardly flies his R/C stuff instead he flies MSFS and His control set up is so impossible to manage I cant sit and fly it at all, he tells me stuff I can't reproduce, but he wants to use it that way. Mom lives with my sister in Kentucky and sadly I may never see her again, I just cant get there and she tells me stuff that is reality but hard to understand about how Mom is now. One day they may both be gone. That's a very real and eminent possibility, And I don't know what I'm going to do, what I'll be expected or be needed to do, Life will kick you awake when you are least expecting, unprepared for or just plain asleep, It has a very loud alarm.

I've very sorry for your loss, and so sad to read how unexpectedly it happened. My deepest condolences.

Thank you all again for your words.

We went to Dad's grave and to church. Afterward we had a family meal with Mom, my sisters and their children.